Do We Really Have to Love Our Spawn?

Okay folks. 

I know for some of you this may be a hard question, and you could never imagine 'not' loving any of your children, but loving your child as an adult is another story.  When they have not become the person they were raised to be brings up a whole other set of emotions.  Perhaps one has to walk in another's shoes to really honestly answer this.  You can say, yes I love my children because I brought them into this world, and I can take them out..yeah, right.  Well, consider doing them body harm, if under the age of 18, and Social Services will remove them for you.  Yep, somebody else can fuck them up for you if you are not doing your job as a parent.

When they are adults, however, and they prompt you to the point of wanting to do them bodily harm with a good bitch-slap, consider the size and figure one of you might end up hurt and in the hospital. 

At this point, most of you know I am having to raise my granddaughter, so much for me being able to escape the drama from her mother's life to include jailbird hubby who will soon be home, or that screwed up in-law family.  One day grown eldest daughter is sweet, cakey, and piey, and the next she's bipolar, mouthy, and in your face.  When life hands you drug-addicted grown children, who have suffered consequences to include the loss of custody of her own children, drama for two years preceding up to that point to include lies, continual lies, verbage, theivery, just out and out bad behaviors to include bullying you, throwing items at you or even hitting you, even though you know this is drug-induced behaviors, in your heart you have disowned them because you had to.  Trust has been irrevocably broken, and it doesn't seem to ever get to the point where you can trust again.

Time and time again if you are being disrespected and your authority undermined (filling her children's heads that they don't have to listen to me as it relates to discipline, etc.), you get to where you dismiss them out of your life, and I'm not so sure that's a bad thing.  Its sad to think that even if she has cleaned up the drug issue, its still full of lies, deceit, behaviors that are hard to deal with, etc, and I am just done with it.  I am sick and tired of having to live in this drama ...actually I know at this point, it will never become a complete circle... it just leaves a a gaping hole...

If a grown child of yours become a source of contempt, shows disrepect, and just acts irresponsibly and disgusts you with their verbage right in front of little 'eyes' watching, do you just turn the other cheek? or do you feel inclined to kick their ass or ban them from your immediate surroundings?  maybe you should pick up everythng you own and move to bumfucked Egypt or perhaps a few towns over might be the trick...

...I'm tired if living my life for everybody else and drowning in this drama, I'm taking it back this year.

Yeah, a one-way ticket sounds like a good idea.